“much of what happens to us in life is nameless because our vocabulary is too poor, most stories get told out loud because the story teller hopes that the telling of the story can transform a nameless event into a familiar or intimate one. We tend to associate intimacy with closeness and closeness with a certain sum of shared experiences. Yet in reality total strangers who will never say a single word to one and other can share an intimacy. An intimacy contained in the exchange of a glance a nod of the head a smile a shrug of the shoulder a closeness which lasts for minutes or for the duration of a song being sung and listened to together. An agreement about life, an agreement without clauses, a conclusion spontaneously shared between the untold stories gathered around the song.”
A word on intimacy as told by Katya Berger